Um, I couldn’t find a fancy meme with the right quote so how about a sunset pic from Naples instead?

I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving doing whatever it is you chose to do.  It was a quiet day here which was perfect.  The clouds kept me from the beach but that’s ok.  I managed to get back to working on the book today which was pretty exciting.  Plan to do some shopping tomorrow which is also exciting. It’s been a long time since I went shopping for fun stuff.

But back to the post.  I think I mentioned a certain male “friend” that I have known for a number of years.  Well, we had a sort of interesting email conversation a few weeks ago.  He is surprised I never found someone to marry or whatever.  He meant it in a good way I suppose – he thinks I’m a catch! lol

Comments like this make me think before I respond.  At this point in my life, I no longer expect to “find someone” and that is somewhat liberating.  I was secretly looking for my white knight for years and now I have accepted he is nowhere to be found.  But it’s not really a bad thing.

When I look at the big picture, I think things have worked out pretty well.  I know being paired up with someone has its advantages.  Yup, I really do.  But I think about all the things I have been able to do BECAUSE I remained single and I think that about evens things up.  And I think about the people I met that I would not have met as a married person and, again, things are about even.  Maybe even better for me.

I suppose (well, I know) there are those folks who spend a lifetime whining about not finding that perfect “someone” and never do anything they want to do.  I have tried to not let it hold me back although there are some things I will not do alone.  It’s simply a choice.  For the most part, I am pretty happy with how things worked out.

Besides, I know way too many married people who are so very unhappy.  Is there anything lonelier than being trapped in a loveless marriage?  Isn’t it depressing to spend your life with someone you don’t really like all that much?  Who has it worse?  The happy single person or the miserable married person?

So imagine my amusement the other night when I heard from someone that I went out with once or twice years ago.  As far as I was concerned, there was no compatibility and no spark.  He found me on facebook and we remained acquaintances.

He met and married someone a few years ago and I was happy for him, mainly because that was what he said he wanted.  Things seemed to be going well – he bought her a car a year or so ago – and he posted pictures of the two of them on vacation or whatever.

Apparently, things are not as they seem (on facebook, imagine that!) and he thinks the marriage is “over”.  He wanted to get together which I declined.

So again, who is happier here?  The forever single girl or the married guy?

Exactly.